My mom has severe Alzheimer's disease and separation anxiety from my Dad. My Dad no longer has the energy (or desire) to take care of her with her constant nagging/fighting (sometimes violent). My sister and I have been supporting them financially and physically for the past 10 years. My sister has to move away for her family 2 years ago so I moved closer to my parents for a year now.
We have been trying to get them to move back to their home country where we have relatives who could help them physically while we work to support them financially. I have been living apart from my partner trying to take care of my parents while holding a full time job and hoping that they will change their minds so I can move with my partner to another country to grow old together.
I now have to choose my parents or my life. I don't know how to leave my parents knowing that they won't survive by themselves but I can't live a life that I hate every minute of it. How do you deal with the dilemma? To live your life the way you want it vs. to live your life for your parents knowing that you hate every minute of it and will break apart eventually? Has anyone been in the same situation and any advice you could give? Thank you very much for all the advices!