I am exhausted and feel wrung out! We both own the house but I moved in a year and a half ago as I could see that her health and mobility were on the decline. I often felt guilty working long hours and being the only daughter left in this country, knew it was down to me to be her caregiver. Having my own health issues, which meant I could no longer work in the job I was doing, I left work intending to take care of my Mum.
At first I thought the back biting comments were just teething troubles, but it soon became apparent that this was the way it was going to be.
I did everything for her; housework, appointments, meals etc. She is supremely selfish and absolutely mean with money, even though she is in no way poor. She has left it to me to pay for home improvements and will not part with a penny, even though legally, we both own the house. She would rather live in squalor. Also, it turns out, her mobility problems are made worse by her excessive alcohol consumption and she refuses to cut down. she is jealous of everyone and hates me talking to the neighbours as she is jealous that the woman next doors husband is still alive and hers isnt. She dumped her only friend as she was no longer any use to her as she had the audacity to contract blood poisoning and spent time in a medically induced coma. She wants to know absolutely everything that I am doing and what for and if I speak to a friend she wants details of the conversation. She has negative comments for everything and I feel my energy constantly being syphoned off by this energy vampire. I have put on weight and now care little about my appearance, it seems pointless. My hair is like a pan scrub and I feel I have aged. Food i prepare is deemed too much for her, yet an hour later she will be eating biscuits. I know she is secretly feeding my dog too as she is now like a little barrel, but denies she is doing it.
Somehow, even with her health issues, she has gained more energy and goes out most days, while I am left drained and like a wet rag.
The other day we had a massive argument and I told her a few truths that she didnt like to hear. I have avoided her for over a week and have gone on strike regarding domestic duties as she is capable of doing things for herself. But instead of cooking for herself, she sits and eats biscuits,thinking i`ll feel sorry for her. She is sooo like a child. I took a phone call today when she was out - it was from a housing rental place, so clearly she`s been thinking of moving out, or, it could just be another way to gain attention from me.
Should I let her move out if thats what she decides?