my youngest sister has lived with me for years. We moved my father in September as his aging allow him not to drive or take care of himself anymore. How do I not feel guilty because I choose to go to dinner a couple times a week with my boyfriend or my girlfriend. My youngest sister throws that up in my face , Every time we have an argument or disagreement about something.I do as much for my father has any other family member. The only thing I don't feel comfortable doing his sponge bath . It feels very invasive to me.
He has fell several times since January. I have recently removed all access to getting up at night on his so he uses a urinal
I bought baby monitors this weekend because my sister and I have been sleeping in the dining room with him every other night as he feels more comfortable if somebody's there. However neither one of us are resting and is becoming more more difficult. I told my father we would use the baby monitors as we could hear him just as easy on those as we could if he yelled for help. My youngest sister won't abide by this and keep sleeping in the dining room with him. This is happened before and she has complained that she's doing more and
And needs more help. My father tells me that I need to do more. I ask him what else I can do besides bathing him which I'm not going to do and he has no answers. I feel like if my sister would stand beside me and sleep in her own room and use the baby monitors we might get more rest and this might not be such an issue. However she does everything my dad wants or two with no boundaries.
I believe it's the right thing to do to care for my father as he agents however I do want to continue to live my life. I want to be able to have dinner with my friends I want to be able to go on vacation with my boyfriend. We have a lady who helps us about 15 hours a week and recently applied to the veterans for more help I know these things will help. My dad's recent MRI & ultrasound came back negative.... wonderful thing ......but the reality in my face now is this could go on for years any advice?