Dad moved in last year after mom died. He has been driving since he was 16. Now he is almost 80 and I am very concerned about his driving. He has never been attentive to begin with anyway. The most recent issue is he drove to visit family 8 hours away. He did not eat well nor take his meds (I assume). He arrived home dehydrated and sick, (how he even drove is beyond me, he could barely walk into the house). After a week he finally admitted he hit another car in a parking lot on his trip home. He at least got the info and the insurance companies are handling it. So now he is planning another trip next month to the same area. He cant drive 20 minutes across town without having to take a nap in the car when he gets back into the driveway then a longer nap like he is doing right now.
I cant tell my sibling as she wont believe me and he will tell her different. I cant take him there and for him to take a plane or train or bus is not in the cards.
My worry is what I expected, on the last trip that he will have an accident, Next time may be worse. If he goes it will be what I experienced last week, trips to the ER, the Dr. and my nursing him back to health (took a week).
I have toyed with disabling the car. He is having some minor issue that I can play up on. I get it, he is bored here and when he visits he is treated like the proverbial son coming home all while being feted. Here he is living like the rest of us (which in my house is a pretty good life). So how do I not be the "bad guy" in all of this? It is not about "if he has an accident it is when". I can't discuss it with the sibling as we are akin to divorced parents. She is the "Disney Parent" and I am the regular you live with me parent and have to "instill the rules".