After a month straight of children and relatives visiting in FIL's house (where we live to take care of him), DH and I were looking forward to going away to a local hotel/resort for 3 days of peace and quiet and intimacy. I have been so exhausted that things like memory and common sense have temporarily flown out the window. I left this morning to get groceries for FIL for the few days we would be gone. I bought lots of soup, multiple specialty prepared salads, milk, juices, his favorite snacks, fresh fruit, his favorite salami, lots of pre-cut and washed fresh fruit, sweets, more drinks, potato salad, bakes beans, anything I thought he might like. I had a screaming baby with me and did the very best I could. I even bought a freshly made lemon cream pie, his favorite.
When I got home, I apologized to my husband because I forgot two things. Ice cream and cereal. I had purchased so much and was trying to do it with grace and love and, yes, I forgot those two things.
You would think I had committed an unforgivable sin. DH laid into me for forgetting them, and all I could think of was, "what about what I did do?" It was humiliating. I felt angry, defensive, resentful of his father, and certainly not looking forward to the three days I was now expected to spend with someone who berated me for being angry that I didn't like being yelled at for forgetting one or two little things when I got so much and did it out of thoughtfulness and love.
Am I in the wrong, here?
He is 85 but goes out when he wants and is not bedridden or anything like that. I tried so hard to do something nice and I just get tired of my elderly father-in-law being the center of our world, especially when this getaway was supposed to focus on just us and our time together as respite.
Sorry for the vent. I am in a hotel and feel absolutely miserable.