I have a dad who refuses to get dressed, brush his teeth, shave , bath or wipe his bottom. His excuse is he has a permanent catheter and when he lived at home he didn't change his clothes or have to do any of those things if he didn't want to .The doctor told him that is a state of mind.mom has been doing all of his care for him. He's 95 and my mom is 90, They now live with my family due to the living home was too mush upkeep and can't drive anymore. Everything I read is telling me to form a routine. I am trying .He refuses to do any physical strength exercises and has gotten in a very weakened state due to this. He has gotten mean, stubborn, insulting and he makes me the bad guy to force certain issues as I mentioned before. He expects the Dr's. to cure him instantly of what ever is wrong. I am going to have to get a physical therapist in here for help but I am limited as to how long they are able to come . I am willing to help with putting shoes on and help with putting catheter through his pant leg so he can get dressed but, other than that He should be able to do the rest. He was taking care of himself 7 weeks ago. If I just let him stew and sit in his underwear or what ever, Is it wrong of me? I'm at wits end.