I tried to help my father who was taking every control of my altzheimer's mother. I spent many nights and days relieving his stress in handling her now mid stage combative altzheimer's condition. I was fine until recently when I did not stay one night and their was some abuse on my mother's part. She hits him when he tries to lock back door at night in order to wait up for her husband who is coming in late from a 30 year old job. She knows my father about 1/2 of day time. Has terrible sundowning. Now I was trying to get help with the County protective services who are involved and he thinks I'm trying to take over his job as soul caretaker. He flips back and forth with wanting leave, sell the house, etc. I feel quilty but know I could never please him or her. Any advice?