I posed this question before and no one answered me. Sometimes I wonder if the reason no one here answered my original question is because they think I'm bad for wanting to stop being my mother's Healthcare POA. The only reason she chose me is because my brother and I were the only ones that showed up to the appointment the day the papers were drawn up. She didn't choose me because she believed I was the best suited to be her Healthcare POA, she chose me by default.
I want to stop being the Healthcare POA and stop being the back-up Financial POA because my sisters are making my life a living hell and my brother is not helping at all even though he is the Financial POA. I'm just the back-up Financial POA, but he still expects me to sign all the papers and do what he should be doing.
I'm the youngest in my family and my sisters treat me like their whipping boy - they have no respect for me. They just want to complain, scream and belittle me. They won't listen to my opinions because they think they're right about everything. They just talk over me and won't let me get a word in edgewise. I have wanted to commit suicide many times over these last months - that's how desperate I feel to have this burden lifted. I have tried and tried to "hang in there" for my mother, but I can't take it anymore.
Since my sisters want to bully me and be in charge of all the decisions,anyway, it seems like they would be happy to consent to becoming Healthcare POA and Financial POA (my brother wants to give up his POA, too, because of my sisters) but they won't. I even offered to pay out of my own pocket for the new legal POA documents to be drawn up by an attorney, but they refuse to take on the responsibility. They want to continue to criticize everything, but have none of the burden of being the POA's. Maybe if I step away, they'll be forced to step up and become the POA's.
I don't know if I can just stop being POA by refusing to do anything else, or if I actually have to fill out a form or sign a paper or something. I live in North Carolina and I've tried to find information online to see if there is anything I need to do to legally relinquish being Healthcare POA and back-up Financial POA, but I can't find the information anywhere.
If anyone out there knows the proper procedure in NC for not being POA anymore, please let me know, as I'm desperate to get this resolved.