I'm my mother's 24/7 caregiver and have been doing this over ten years now. I finally confronted my sister (she lives an hour and a half away in another state and very very rarely visits) and I told her i can no longer do this. I told her we should consider a nursing home and her response was .. "well you know mother, you know she wouldn't do well in a nursing home, you know what would happen"...... That really upset me .. so now I'm thinking ..My mother just absolutely adores my sister and her 3 grown children. They are her "family" .. not sure what I am to her .. not sure what she is to me either .. she never bonded with me like she did with sister who is 7 years older than I. I'm sick and tired of losing my life and shouldering this burden. I want my life back. So, if this made any sense .. does anyone know if I can do this? Frankly, I think mother would thrive if she had her dear daughter and grandchildren around. And I can't think of any excuses they could use to NOT visit her if she were there. Of course, when I had the time and wasn't on vacation or whatever, I would be more than happy to come visit mother .. once or twice a year for a couple of days.