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I am filing for guardianship, however, in Madison County where she resides in a nursing home, they are not taking new cases for several months and I would like to get her home by the holidays. My Father passed away one month ago and I have been trying ever since to get my momma home. He would visit her daily, but, now since he is passed, no one goes to see her except me and I live 60 miles from the facility and having 5 small children at home, I very rarely get to see her. I am really hoping to get her home soon.

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Unless she doesn't want to go home, I would think you could take her out. Has anyone said differently?
If you have difficulty, contact the ombudsman for that nursing home. You can find that person at www.ltcombudsman.org. Type in the Zip code for the nursing home and follow the links. Good luck,
Carol
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Thank you all so much for your comments. Working with the nursing home, home nursing care and the social worker at the nursing home, I am bringing my mom home on the 18th. Even though I do not have guardianship yet, filing, I am a sponsor and can care for my mom and legally make her descisions.
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I want to bring my momma home until she passes. She is in the final stage of alzheimers and is pretty much like an infant. I tried to care for her when it became to much for my dad, but she was at the stage where she made it very hard to care for her. I had just had my 6th child who had a heart condition and I found myself leaving him lay and cry to tend to her needs, so I had to put her in a care facility. Now she is in her final stage and only needs to be bathed, fed and diapered...just like an infant. No one objects, out of all of my siblings I am the only one willing to care for her even though I am the only one with children at home (5). Even my siblings who have room and stay at home all day anyway, I am the only one. She doesn't have an estate or anything, just a monthly income to care for her. (SSI) My Daddy recenltly passed. He until about a month before he passed was going and seeing her daily for hours and would keep the nursing home on their toes when it came to caring for mom. Now that he has passed, I go to see her and she is still laying in bed or stinks, matted hair, dry food on her face, and a nurse call button attached to her bed. (she has had no mobility for almost 2 years and cannot call the nurse). They never left her cooped up in her room until he passed, now that is the only place I find her. I cannot travel to see her daily because of my responsibility to my kids and the distance I have to travel. Financially it has also been a strain. (travel expence on a limited income.) I was able to care for my daddy his last few days and really would like the opportunity to do the same for my momma.
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I'm not sure what the issue is here. You want to bring her to your home and care for her while she is dying. No one objects. Do it.

I highly recommend hospice care for her once you have her in your home.
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Have you asked the nursing home? I think to get hospice care, you will need a doctor to say that your mother probably has 6 months or less to live. Once she leaves the NH, the doctor connected with it will no longer be her doctor.
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Hospice does not require a 6 month life expectancy. You do have to have a fatal diagnosis, but I was shocked when my mom was approved because of a hear condition she has had for years. They said they had one patient that was on hospice for seven years. There services have been invaluable, and it doesn't cost anything to be evaluated, so it is worth a try.
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Do you mean that you want her to come visit you for the holidays, or that you want to move her out of the NH and into your home? Is another viable option to move her to a nursing home closer to you so you could visit daily?

Who objects to you taking your mother out of the NH?
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