Our 79 yo mother recently went down with stage 4 cirhosis and malnutrition. she lives 100 miles from me and my brother, 200 miles from my sister. My sister spent 5-7 days drinking with my mother immediately prior to her collapse. Additionally, my sister is attending court ordered outpatient rehab due to a DUI.
I was the only sibling to respond to mom's collapse. She was in the hospital for 14 days. When she was released she lived with me for 2 months and made a miraculous recovery through nutrition and not drinking. Neither of my siblings had anything to do with her care or communication with the attending physician. I informed my siblings that she cannot drink and do not enable her to have access to it.
My brother just delivered mom to my alcoholic sister's home and now she is drunk again.