Dad died recently, and Mom's demented. She's home alone, and has refused help from the 4 kids, or from professional visiting services. She's not totally gone, and can care for her own hygiene, cooking, housekeeping, but not things like driving, paying bills, or doing taxes. She will have a run-in with Pennsylvania Social Services via a 911 call or a medical event. We live far away, and fear that when Social Services gets involved, Mom forgets that we exist, and we are not notified. This happened when Dad was dying - she forgot to notify us for a week after he entered hospital.
Mom neither accepts nor rejects our role as caregivers - she insists she doesn't need a caregiver. She won't give POA. Our strategy is to let her fail (or succeed) on her own, and call her several times a week to remind her we love her.
Q: Is there a way to notify Social Services that Mom's likely have contact with them soon, and that we are an interested party?