I'm laying beside mom in ALF - she is actively dying.

I'm glad there are folks there to take care of you while you take care of your mom.

Thinking of you....

Angels to you.
lovbob

How lucky you are to have her in your arms. She is so blessed to be held, by the one who loves her most, at this time of pain and fear. You are both in my Prayers. May Peace wash over you both when she leaves.

She is very blessed to have you by her side. It doesn't feel like it now, but you will know later that you did the very best for her that could be done. You will appreciate that you were there for her as she left this world. I'm crying as I write this, I wish I could give you a hug. God bless you both.

Hang in there honey, what a heartbreaker. Big big hugs, please know that none of this is your fault, and you are a very good daughter. My heart goes out to you both.

Your mom is lucky to have such a loving, caring daughter. And I can tell she's been a great mom as evidenced by your love for her. I'll be thinking of you tonight and hoping your mom transitions in the most peaceful way possible. Big hugs to you.

a relatively rapid death is the most any of us could hope for. the alternative is our greatest nightmare. wish both of you the best. sorry if that sounds brash, it isnt meant to be.

My prayers are going out for you and your mom.

I can understand about shock and it's hard to deal with other than just waiting through it. Eventually reality has to creep back in because that is its ugly way.

There's no way to know what will happen...even 'the odds are' is not a certainty. There are 5 stages of grieving many of us go through and sometimes it starts before and sometimes after....

They are, not in any order:
Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance

You can look these up sometime if you want to, and read more about them; they are many places online and also at the library.

These stages were studied and determined by Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and are called the Kübler-Ross model. They are not totally inclusive of all the possible feelings nor are all of them always experienced by everyone...there is no particular order that they follow, necessarily...but they are seen as a valid model for anyone who is either facing their own death or that of a loved one...or any other catastrophic life event.

I think you must be experiencing denial right now and it can be described as:
"Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of possessions and individuals that will be left behind after death. Denial can be conscious or unconscious refusal to accept facts, information, or the reality of the situation. Denial is a defense mechanism and some people can become locked in this stage."

So just now that what you are going through is necessary and somewhat expected...I wish that you didn't have to face this but death is a part of life and not one of us is exempt.

I don't know if any of this helped but I will continue to send you good energy and that, I know, can't do any harm. GOD be with you and your mom during this time.

Bless you, dear one... May God give you and your Mom His peace, grace and love during this time... Your Mom is blessed to have you as a daughter...

My sympathies are with you. You are a great child and it's okay to be in denial. And it's totally understanding that you're staying with her. But you're accepting it whether you know it or not because you realize it can't go on forever. You are very fortunate to have her in such a nice ALF and that they're helping you through this time. I'm happy for you about that. But understand, your mom will be in a better place and not in any pain once she passes. And doctors don't always predict right - it could take longer. My heart goes out to you! (((HUGS)))