My mother became angry during one of her diabetic swings in glucose and literally kick my sister, her husband and son out of her house at 2:00 am. They called me and I of course indicated they could stay with my family on the way home since they lived far from my mother and were visiting at her request. At that time both my sister and I were POA. About two months later, my mother change the POA to an individual who cleaned her home and was a recipient of Medicare due to a claimed disability. Within six months friends and neighbors began contactlng my sister and I expressing concerns. Because mother lives in a small town the reputation of the lady is known, and we can possibly with the right approach get mom to change her mind. My main question is as initially stated when my mother went to the same attorney she has used for years should or could he have said or done anything towards opening the door to allowing mom to rethink her decision?
So in this case, say he raised an eyebrow at her choice of new POA and said "really? Is this lady a fit and proper person? Are you sure you can trust her to act for you?" and your mother told him to stop the backchat and get on with it... not much he can do.
And, of course, he can't discuss her affairs with you. But he can read or hear any concerns you wish to express to him: you could do worse than explain why you'd like him to suggest she reconsider.
Guardians in this area have also fleeced their charges, running up costs for house improvements as well as curtailing access to friends.