Only one time I watched a caregiver "rip" the disposable briefs off of my mom. She is capable of doing it herself. Pulling them down. You just have to tell her and she can do it. She even does #2 herself. Doesn't wipe very well but they take care of that for her. It's very degrading watching that. She is 89, not an invalid. Just memory issues.
Guess I have to get over it since she is there and I'm not. I guess things could be worse.
And I don't know which topic to choose.
And yeah, things could be MUCH worse right now, that's for sure. Thank God if there are no virus outbreaks at your mother's place, as there aren't in mine. THAT is what's important right now. Nothing else. Keep perspective.
If she can't take the pressure then maybe she is in the wrong profession. Just my opinion.
Do you still feel that it was right for her to call me and scold me about me asking about how many briefs were left? I felt that she was wasting a phone call when she should have been taking care of the residents who required her help. Again, my opinion.
When you open the Caregiver Forum, you will see a blue box which will say "Ask Your Question" and inside is a white box that says "Type your question" Try posting your concern there.
There are many caring people on this site who will help you. Best of luck.
The 'but' is that the person wearing the pull-up is often not even aware that the pull-ups are designed to tear. If you as a caregiver or aide are so used to it you don't take just a moment to explain what you're about to do, you can really alarm the wearer who thinks you are literally ripping his/her clothes off.
Whether or not the person is used to it, it is still important to be sensitive to the fact that you are providing intimate personal care, and although most people do seem to get over the worst embarrassment and stop hating it, it still isn't exactly something they're happy to take for granted.
When the pull-up is clean on that morning, after a wash, not wet and not soiled, then of course it is better to treat it like ordinary underwear, up and down like standard knickers. What the person is able to do for herself, she should be encouraged to do for herself.
So I'm not sure you have to get over everything you saw. A friendly nudge to remind people that this is a person with feelings that they're helping wouldn't hurt anyone.