I had previously written for advice about traveling with my 92 year old dad who has dementia. Thank you EVERYONE for your answers. And I did talk to the geriatric psych the other day who did not recommend it. Now, a new subject...... My dad fell twice last year and has been having knee trouble ever since. They have put him through several rounds of in-home physical and occupational therapy and he takes pain killers for various aches and pains he has had through the years, including his knee. He does not abuse them. Last fall, they prescribed him a gel to put on his knee 3 times a day for pain. They told him he has arthritis. He is insistent that something else be done. He gets skin tears on his calves and was at the doctor's office the other day to have bandages checked by the nurse. He asked her about having something done for his knee and she told him there was nothing they could do.
Now he is threatening to find a new doctor (he has changed doctors before when he didn't like answers he was getting.) I explained to him that it was the nurse who told him this and to wait and discuss the subject with his primary care doctor at his regular appointment next month. I am very pleased with the care they give him and I would not approve of a physician change. My dad is frail, but he is still mobile. He takes multiple walks with his walker up and down the street every day. The caregivers get him out to run errands every day. I explained to him that if they did agree to do surgery, he would need to go to rehab for a long time to recover. He did not understand this and doesn't understand why he couldn't just come home (not a safe house for someone recovering from knee surgery). In my mind, he may never come home to his house - that he would have a tough time recovering from something like this. I was appointed guardian this fall and if it was my choice, I would not agree to a surgery but then again, I believe that as guardian, I am supposed to do what he wishes. Has anyone dealt with surgery and recovery for someone in their 90's?