My MIL is living with myself, my husband, and our son (who is 23 & high functioning autistic). She has end stage copd & digestive issues. Constantly obsesses about every little ache & pain..it's almost funny to see the dramatic way she sits at dinner & holds her stomach looking out of the corner of her eye to see if we are noticing (by the way, she has had endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc..there's nothing wrong). If it's not her health, it's her other kids who don't visit or call enough. Or something that they did years ago that she will bring up & harp on for as long as she can get you to listen. She'll sleep all day if we're both at work (he works 5 days a week, I work 6)...then stay up at night. I can't seem to have 5 minutes to myself. If I get up, here she comes. I was up til 1am Christmas eve cooking for the next day's dinner (after working all day at the post office) & She was standing on the other side of the bar just yammering on about all of the above..I could have done a jig when she finally went to bed...then she got back up about 20 min. later to "keep me company"...When family comes over she has what I call the "Miraculous Recovery" til they leave & then it's right back to poor me, everything hurts, everybody look at me ! She constantly starts arguments with my husband..they can no longer have a civil conversation. She was still smoking when she moved in & was having difficulty breathing & needed her rescue inhaler every time she smoked....til her oxygen level dropped to 69 & we called 911...the Dr. at the hospital told us to go home & get rid of all of the cigarettes which we did. She still rails at us about that. I know I'm rambling but I just need to vent. She constantly accuses us of wanting to put her in a home...says she wants to drive (which scares the crap out of me..she's so weak & forgetful)..we've tried to get her into some daytime activities but she won't have anything to do with it. She turns every conversation back to herself or something to do with her husband who has been gone 5 years now. I'm just beside myself with all this stress. I don't even want to come home some days because I know what it's gonna be. I'm afraid that all this stress is gonna take me or my husband out before we have any time to enjoy by ourselves! I feel so selfish saying that but that's how I feel...Thank you all so much for this discussion board. It helps to just get it out sometimes.