My Mom was diagnosed with Dementia just 4 months ago. We were told that she needs to be where she has someone with her at all times. Since she was so unhappy at home (no one comes to see her, she's bored, and hundreds of other complaints), we took her to look at Assisted Living places nearby. The complaints never stopped...she wants to go home, she doesn't like it here, she's better off than anyone else here...! On the 3rd fall, she fractured her hip and had to have screws put in, and thus, the doctor sent her to Rehab until it heals and she can have physical therapy. NOW, we have the same complaints, but just about a different place! She has trouble remembering why she is there (surgery), so that doesn't make it any easier! She hates her Neurologist (who diagnosed her) and feels like WE, her children, are the ones who say she has Dementia.
She will be in such a good mood, and suddenly change moods. She will say we are punishing her by making her stay "away from home", we don't love her, and a whole host of other accusations. I keep telling my brothers that they have to remember that it is not "her" talking. But, that is difficult for them to grasp! In the end, she will start crying when they start to leave. She doesn't do that to me when I'm there...unless I'm there at the same time they are.
You may have figured out that I am extremely blessed to have two brothers who help me with her. They actually do more than I do because I live further away. They visit her once or twice EVERY day, but she doesn't usually remember that anyone has even been there to visit.
I keep searching on the internet to see if I can read about anyone who has had the same problems with their loved ones, but, it seems that everyone is different, so I haven't fond much help. We are all three very tired and at our wits end trying to make her happy without taking her home. We have always been a close-knit family and support each other, and I think that helps a lot. I can't imagine how bad this could be if we weren't!
If anyone could give me some pointers on how to deal with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, I would very much appreciate it! I am the only one of the three who isn't retired. My husband and I own a business, so I am being worn down after trying to make sure I see her 2 to 3 times a week.