My mother in law moved in shortly after my husband did. He and her lived together after his divorce. We have his two teenage boys 50% of the time and my two kids 8 and 4 about 65% of the time. My house is a 4 bedroom home, 1 1/2 bath. I made sure she had a room of her own. She has health problems, 79 yrs old, stroke in 2004 leaving her with mobility issues, diabetes, smokes outside like a chimney, doesn't drive and is passive aggressive. She used to help out making dinner and buying groceries, I would take her to the store before but the 4hr trips to Walmart were too much. I tried to tell her I would drop her off and pick her up, but she wanted me to go with her. I work as a nurse and have 2 young kids, I don't have time to spend that long in a store. Did I mention my husband has 2 other siblings that don't even call her? I feel selfish at times fro feeling resentful towards her and my husband because She washee the dishes and helps with laundry and I can leave my kids at home when I work. She really doesn't watch them, just sits outside and smokes and drinks her coffee. She doesn't have to pay anything. We feed her dinner every night and serve it to her as well. I have always picked up her meds, took her to appointments and buy her cigarettes. I make sure she has everything she needs and my husband lets me. She is pretty much of sound mind. I feel she is ungrateful at times and mopes around the house because she doesn't have a vehicle. I would be afraid of getting that call where she fell getting in or out of her vehicle. She complains about the kids constantly. She has even come into my husband and my bedroom while we were laying there and proceeded to put clothes away. She sits on our love seat, a couch my husband and I bought for him and I, right next to my husband at night watching tv until 2am. I would have to sit on the other couch. I find myself hiding up in my room, to get any privacy. If we move her into an apartment (which he tried before and she said someone was breaking into it, that last 3 months). Then we would be left with finding a sitter while we work. I don't like feeling resentful, but I just can't help it and I knew he cared for her before I married him.