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she has a bad habit moving her room around then she hurts herself. We try to tell her not to do this when we are not home ,She does anywhere .She also repeats herself.

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Turning up the heat?! Already fighting that here today. Instead of closing windows, turning on space heater, let's heat up the whole darn house. If it gets down to 72 in the house, it is too cold. Here is to the beginning of what they say is going to be a hard winter! ARRRGH!
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My dad is 82 with Alzheimers and lives with me.We moved in April and he is fortunate to have a room with four closet cabinets on one wall with two windows that have window seats (a cabinet/closet then a window seat then two cabinet/closets then a window seat then a cabinet/closet). I am amazed how he gets up and rearranges his closets. His suits are in the far left closet so he leaves them alone. The two middle closets he rearranges (left one has pants/slacks and right one has shirts and I have put his t-shirts on hangers). Sometimes I wash them all just to be on the safe side, but usually I just make sure they're hung properly/safely. He enjoys being in bed and looking out of the window closest to his bed (I have heavy curtains at lower half of window). He comments often about how he likes to look at the tall trees through the window. Supposedly that is therapeutic which I'm grateful for. His bath entrance is oversized and is directly in line with his bed. He has a huge bath with two end sections of a sectional sofa on either side of his pedestal sink. He has four windows in his bath, a claw foot tub, and a massive shower that is all of the right side of the room from the doorway. He enjoys sitting on the sofas looking out the windows at birds and squirrels. I've noticed how he likes to pace so the expansiveness of both rooms is a blessing. He has a dresser along the wall to the right of his bath entrance that houses ties, hankerchiefs, underpants, socks. He loves the wool socks from LLBean. He has a wingback recliner in front of the dresser because of a television where he enjoys classics and clean comedies. The pretty ladies in the classics are more his favorites than the westerns he used to enjoy so. Our kitchen, dining room, and living room is open space which is easy for him. The hardwood floors are incredibly beautiful. He touches the knots in the wood often so he is getting exercise. I worried he would fall over, but he is learning to balance himself. The patio doors view the back yard which is privacy fenced with a couple dogs he enjoys watching. I do not open those doors (there is another back yard door). A huge daybed is in front of them and he lounges couple times a day. Large trees in back yard provide birds for him to watch. I studied a lot about this disease and even had first-hand experience with his elder brother, but nothing prepared me for my parent becoming child-like. I have two Queen Ann wingback chairs along a wall facing each other with a glass-topped wicker long low table between them (a sitting area). Another brother who is two years younger visits. We have the oversized checkers game from Cracker Barrel we play often. This coming January'll be two years since my dad's doctor told him not to drive. Occasionally, I go to the grocery store alone after I've put dad to bed and he has his television on. Life is slow around here. He loves his room and bath. He often tells me so. We have been eating out often for socialization, but find the cleanliness issues in many restaurants to be a concern. So I'm preparing healthy foods at home. Right now the crock pot is on high setting for steel cut oatmeal we'll have at ten o'clock. I understand oatmeal is supposed to be great to eat for meal before bed because it is so soothing, but he likes it in the morning. Daddy does rearrange his bureau drawers. I keep extras in another place in case I question the cleanliness. I'm lucky he is using the bathroom on his own and in the toilet (I hear men can get confused about where to aim). The Honest Co. (actress Jessica Alba's company) offers a hand soap that is gentle and I've noticed a difference since my dad has been using it. He brushes his teeth with Desert Essence's natural tea tree oil and neem toothpaste which is keeping his gums healthy. I am considering fencing the front yard with one of those iron fences so daddy and the dogs can walk around one of the smaller trees in the front yard (like a walking track) instead of joining a fitness facility where he would become confused easily by the differing members he would interact with. There are 3 cats in our house and he adores watching them run and slide along the wood floors. Our dining/kitchen table is oblong and glasstopped with parsons chairs. I thought he would get confused, but he hasn't. We can enjoy the beautiful wood floors through the glass. Luckily he doesn't bother the stove nor the washer or dryer. I am grateful that I can care for my dad in a home setting where he has freedoms and close personal attention. Best of luck with your mom!
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If I understand your post correctly, she's getting up on her own and falling. If you're saying she's moving FURNITURE? Well....that's a new one. I'll assume the former.

If mom isn't safe up and about on her own, then she can't be left alone in the house. That's a tough one for many families to handle, but it's the truth. If you both work, then I'd strongly suggest Adult Daycare. Our area has one that charges $57/day for 7:30 AM to 5:30 PM. It's expensive, but if someone can't be left alone, there are few less expensive alternatives.

When you're home, make her favorite chair a transport chair with a comfy gel pad seat. Lighly buckle her in with a long gait belt to remind her she isn't to get up on her own. Buckle it behind the chair back so she can't get to it. Then she has to call you for help; so she CAN be left alone in a room while you're busy doing other things.

If she's doing this at night, they make after-market bed rails that go practically the whole length of the bed. If she's even semi-agile, though, there's a danger she will hurt herself trying to climb over them.

(With mom, she was likely to fall or injure herself when she had to go to the bathroom. She would simply forget she couldn't walk without her walker. Two steps and bam! A broken hip, in her case. I was ten feet away in the other room.)

Mom's weaker now, but STILL forgets she can't walk without assistance. She's buckled into her chair (very loosely, mind you). And, at night? We've gotten a hospital bed with full rails (prescribed and free from Medicare). We raise the head and foot of the bed, and she couldn't get out of bed if she tried because of the body position head/foot raising puts her in. The rails are extra insurance.

It is VERY difficult for families to handle fall risks. But that's no surprise. They are very difficult to handle in assisted living and nursing homes as well. We all just do the best we can...
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I am going to assume she is moving furniture as my mom on occasion will try to do. Eliminate all unnecessary furniture; make sure any remaining furniture is light weight or on wheels to allow for easy rearranging. If there is carpet on the floor, replace it with la vinyl product (added bonus, when bathroom accidents happen easier cleanup). Hang clothes in closet rather than having them stored in drawers. Maybe her new activity will become rearranging her closet and I don't see much harm in that.
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FF, I think if some had their way bed would be hanging to the ceiling on order to make more floor space! LOL! Gotta laugh or we would all lose what sanity we have left.
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Winter time is no sweat -- pun intended. I close the vents off in my two rooms and can open the windows. Summer is when it gets bad. Closing vents and opening windows doesn't help in the south US. We need air. It's funny to watch my rabbit when things are too hot. He'll hear the air conditioner cut on, then run to the vent fast as he can. He'll sit there and let the cold air blow through his fur. I know how he feels.
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And when I just heard the furnace kick on, I ran for the basement, opened windows. PLEASE, NOT ALREADY!
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It is when I would head to the thermostat and turn it back off. Let the thermostat wars begin.
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Just absolutely irks me! If they had their way, the furnace would be on all summer!

Yes, let the thermostat wars begin!
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What I need is one that provides a false reading and allows for adjustments that really dont do anything just to keep L happy. I swear he doesnt complain about being cold until he looks at the thermometer. And if it dips below 74 he will turn it up again. A bit sly? You bet.
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