My mother lives in a nursing home.she is better controlled physically because of the care but dementia is setting in and seems to be progressing quite rapidly because of past strokes. I go to see her every day. One day she will be fine and have a good conversation , then the next day she is in the past and believes we are all her cousins or grandma and everything she relates to her growing up, the next day she may be very combative and hallucinating. I never know from day to day which person I will see. I try to talk to her about her children and grandchildren . I take pictures of things going on and try to keep her more in the present. I have noticed this becoming harder and harder. Each conversation goes to the past within just a few minutes these last few weeks no matter what I do. She gets very good care for her physical and dementia problems. She has CHF, COPD, low kidney function, chronic anemia and has had several major strokes from which has recovered 90% . She is 82.. Do I keep talking about the present even when she lapses into the past and asks me questions like yesterday: Is momma still in the hospital or did she go home. i told her grandma had passed away and she got upset that no one told her or took her to the funeral. her mom died in 1995. I do not know how to talk to her. They want me to keep talking about the present day but she gets frustrated if i am not talking to her about the things she is saying. Do I go along or tell her the truth about people being alive or dead. I am just not sure what to do.