How do I not feel guilty when I take time for myself? I have two sets of parents. Mom and stepdad are in Arkansas, where my two brothers help to care for them. I stayed here to care for dad and stepmom. Dad died in 2005, so it has been just myself and mom ever since. Mom just turned 72 in April. She has had two major surgeries in the last year. She has had many problems since, i.e. Bladder Incontinence, no energy, depression, and now Bowel Incontinence. She is very angry and takes it out on me. She refuses to do anything for herself because why should learn to do something when I, or others can do it for her. I am not in the best of health right now either. I work about 65 hours a week while struggling with insomnia, diabetes and other age related illnesses. Even when I broke an ankle last year, she still expected me to take care of her every desire. I love her, but I am burning out. I lost my husband of 30 years last August and I haven't even had time to mourn his death.