Just wondering if anyone recommends medications for incontinence?

It’s me again!  My mother complains about not being able to make it to her toilet (bedside commode) and wets through her pad (Poise 6). I end up changing her clothes all day and night long. She says diapers and pads don’t hold more than one time she urinates. I change her immediately at her request.

She has mentioned this to her doctor and the doc has offered to write a script for meds. She has refused getting script.

She is in process of home health at this time due to falls. I mentioned this to her nurse and the nurse told her to go on meds for it. Now she says she may try them. Do these meds help?