I moved my mom, who has PPA, into a memory care facility near me. This meant moving her across the country, with a whole lotta change. She had lived on her own for the last decade with in-home care for the last 1.5 years. She has regressed to speaking in Russian (our primary language) exclusively, not understanding that most of the people she is speaking to do not understand her. Due to the communication issues, she gets easily agitated and has now become aggressive with staff and residents, per the facility. They call me almost daily to try to help intervene and calm her down (since I can't physically go inside during COVID).
They have a 0 tolerance policy for aggression towards other residents so they have now sent her to the ER twice in the last 2 months to check for infections and do a psych eval. Each time I've taken her and each time the doctors apologized to me and acted confused about why we were there. There were no infections, no suggestions and no solutions. They cannot discharge her into a psych ward without medical professionals declaring that she is a harm to herself or others, but once she is out of the facility, she's as calm as a cucumber and has no recollection of raising her hands at anyone.
I'm worried that they will discharge her, and if they do, I don't know where she would go. I am single, live alone in a 1BR apt that would not be conducive for her to move in safely, work full time (remotely now), and am now really struggling with my own mental health/depression/stress/anxiety caused by this entire situation. I feel so selfish but I would have to find a new home, quit my job, and likely cut off my entire social life if I move her in with me. She is young - physically active - but her PPA has really progressed and she requires nearly 24 hour supervision now. Not to mention that the staff at the facility tell me that she talks sh** about me to them now.
We are both new to Illinois - I have lived here just under a year & just moved her at the end of July. Any help or advice, local or national, would be much appreciated.