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Hey ~~ Had my talk w/ a nurse yesterday. They assessed dad. I think I'll wait for awhile to start Pal Care. I said his legs have been hurting him for awhile b/c we went on a small walk along the Missouri River, which he grew up on. He has been a bricklayer his whole life and his legs are getting tired. I have been giving him Advil. I asked if I could have some Tramadol or Flexeral to help his legs feel better. YIKES!! She said it will be Morphine they will start prescribing! Then she asked if he was anxious or depressed and would he need help w/ that. Did I read most of those posts here correctly that stated Morphine and Ativan are the last resort for people on hospice care? I picked him up after his supper last night to go get a RB Float before bed and he wanted me to take him by the local senior center to try and dance to the big band! Is this someone who needs morphine? Am I reading too much into the M&A combo? Am I Thinking he's better than he really is? He wanted a used bike from the GW the other day so he could ride to the pool 3 blocks away. His legs are too sore, so "No", but is this a man who needs Morphine and an anti anxiety combo? Should I ask for a second assessment as dad had slept thru the whole interview? I had given him an Advil and he felt better and fell asleep just when she got there for her appt! Dang It!! He is so fun and happy for every day he's given. He looked like Dead Man Sleeping yesterday! LMK if anyone has a few minutes. Thank you all you dear people!

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Has he been evaluated already for poor circulation/varicose veins/peripheral artery disease? If he hasn't, then you should consider taking him to the doctor for a consult. PAD is painful when walking even at short distances.
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When we put my mom on Hospice, the first thing they did was deliver Ativan and morphine. I told them she didn't have any pain, they said it was standard practice, "just in case". We have never used it. We also don't use Ativan because my son in law, a doctor, said it was the worst for older patients. We still have Seroquel, which he says is best if the psych drugs, so that is what she gets. I told them that when it was gone, if they wouldn't provide Seroquel, which she takes a small dose of and works well, that I will just take her off hospice. They are nice, but it really doesn't provide much relief. CNA bathes mom twice a week, nurse comes and takes vitals once a week, social worker comes once a month but just chats. We can do all of those ourselves.
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My husband was on palliative care and then hospice. I found lots of benefits to hospice care. Palliative care didn't seem to offer much. In a sense, all dementia care is "palliative" -- we know there isn't a cure and we are just trying to manage the symptoms.  I think it might be more helpful for other health conditions. 
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So can you give us more info on why you had your dad assessed? I tried to find out more about his situation, but couldn't find anything. What are his medical conditions?

My mom lived in independent living and had atrial fib and pulmonary fibrosis. She started having episodes where she'd go semi-comatose for about 30 minutes at a time. She had no short-term memory, so wouldn't remember what happened an hour later. Those episodes started to increase and her appetite decreased to where she really didn't want to eat. She was spending more time in bed sleeping. When that happened, I called in hospice. She got the morphine and ativan combo. She was on hospice for one week before she passed away. There were clear signs she was going downhill (and had been since February, when I first saw one of these "episodes").

So we'd need to more about your dad to have a better idea of where he is with his medical condition. Him wanting to do things doesn't necessarily mean he's in good shape. My mom said she was "back to normal" within three days of dying. She just had no memory of what was happening, which was a blessing overall.

I'm also surprised the assessment person (a nurse, I assume) didn't wake your dad up to talk to him. They woke my mom up when they came to assess her.
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I know from reading on the site that there are benefits that go along with Hospice such as funding of aides, nurses, in home doctor visits and supplies, but I haven't read of any comparable benefits in palliative care. I'm just curious, what would the advantages be if he had been accepted?
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I discussed Palliative Care with my loved one's doctors. I wasn't aware that there was any special benefits, forms, etc. I thought it meant that we were on the same page as providing my LO with comfort care. This means, no cancer screenings, no surgeries unless it's mandatory for her comfort, and minimum medication to keep her comfortable. We decided to stay on hypertension and cholesterol, but, I'm weighing that now, since she now has profound dementia per her doctor.

If there are any other benefits or procedures, can someone chime in about it?
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ImSoTired1 - Your description of your dad's illness gave several hints that you may be dealing with a common, but poorly diagnosed typed of dementia, Lewy Body Disease. Dementia, hallucinations and stiffness (Parkinsonianism) are three of the major symptoms. If he has LBD, typical anti-psychotics, ativan and morphine are dangerous for him. Check out the LBD website https://www.lbda.org/category/3437/what-is-lbd.htm
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Hi Blannie ~
you are right. I did ask a Q here last week about Pal Care when the DR ordered it but I couldn't figure out where to continue thread! Ha! I'm the one that needs the Ativan!

I was trying to keep dad awake for the interview but he was up all night w/ leg pain and he fell into a stupor sleep when he felt better. I was literally running back and forth from the elevator to his room every 20 seconds saying "Hang on dad! She will be here any minute!"

BOOM! He fell asleep the minute she walked in the room. I'm sure she sees this all day every day.

Hallucinations all the time now, BAD ones at night. Horrible Leg pain but he gets thru it. Shortness of breathe. Short term Memory about 30 seconds.

But Boy is he Funny! And loves every second he alive!
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Plus anti hallucinogenics were started about 2 months ago and I have been upping them every few weeks ~ Not working. Still visions. Only making him doped up all morning ~ which makes him look worse off than he is ~ Fully awake by lunch.
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Thank you caregiving ~

I will get him checked out for that. I've been to the dr's office like 7x's the last 2wks.

It seems like we never get the real answers. He is DONE w/ drs he has said again.
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