I have been caring for my Mom for the better part of 6 years. It’s been just me and I’d been blessed with a career that allowed me the flexibility of working from home until last month. She’ll be 82 and is physically healthy. My routine includes buying groceries and preparing all meals, taking her to all dr. Appts., taking out her garbage, spending up to 10 hours a week with her in her home, and daily phone calls. I also arrange all her appts., talk to her doctors, call for maintenance and pay for her lifecare alert, cell phone and yard work. I’ve been blessed to be able to do this and she’s been blessed to be able to stay independent and pay her bills. We’ve made it work despite her earlier major depressive disorder and psychosis and 2 previous mental hospitalizations in 2013 and 2014. We survived that! My main issue now is that I’ve lost my full-time job and I’m starting to get depressed or maybe already there. I haven’t had time to worry about the job as I’ve been thinking about her. I’m basically keeping her alive. She doesn’t want anyone else to help her and she relies on me for a lot.
She was hospitalized in the past few months for syncope, which was a result of dehydration and malnutrition. I found her both times and had her taking to local ER and she was hospitalized for 3 days each time and given a heart monitor. As a result, I’m tasked with making sure she eats the food I prepare or buy and drinks enough fluids. I’ve gained 20lbs trying to help because I’m cooking or buying fast food to help keep her alive. Her health is fine per the doctor but if I don’t get her food or electrolyzing water every few days, it’s over. She tosses the meals on wheels in the freezer if it doesn’t appeal to her and will starve if I don’t feed her. She is a tough lady and I love her to death. I didn’t mind doing the little things I’ve done but now I’m unemployed and have tons of bills, mortgage that need paid and will likely need to work outside the home again, which may leave me too exhausted to help. Looking for prayers and support. Thank you!