My sister and I both have Power of Attorney for our mom. My sister wants to put our mom in a nursing home because she sometimes forgets what day it is and when recent events occured. My sister thinks Mom is incapable of making decisions. I live with Mom and nothing can be further from the truth. She's 87 and she still drives. She balances her own checkbook. She gardens. She does housework. You get the picture. My mom's doctor thinks she has dementia based on the limited information my sister has told him. While my mom has had bouts with confusion, especially time, they aren't continuous. Whenever they do occur, it's always when she's woken from a nap.
They actually started after she was put on medication for high blood pressure. I read where certain blood pressure medications can deplete your melatonin levels which controls your sleep cycle. So I bought a melatonin supplement. I started with 3 mg and noticed a slight change. I noticed an even bigger improvement when we upped it to 5 mg. Four months went by and everything was normal. Then, she fell and broke her hip. She didn't lose her balance or anything. It was simply an accident. After spending one week in the hospital and four weeks in a nursing home for physical therapy, she is back home. My sister calls three days after mom gets home and mom is confused about what day it is. Well, she was asleep at the time. Need I remind you that mom hasn't had any problems for the last several months. I also just found out that mom forgot to take her melatonin the night before. She's also in intense pain. From what I've read, dementia doesn't come and go. It's continuous and gets worse over time. It's also incurable. I think my mom has been misdiagnosed for dementia. I think her symptoms are more indicative of delirium, which can be cured if the cause is found. I've read articles about how often people are diagnosed for dementia when they really don't have it. I think my mom's doctor diagnosed her for dementia based on the limited information my sister gave him. Anyway, if my sister wants to have my mom committed and the doctor agrees with her, can my mom and I prevent them from doing so? My sister's name is listed first on the Power of Attorney but only because she's older. The POA says we have equal but separate decision making powers.