My narcissistic mom died last May at 97. I practically had a breakdown with caregiving. No dementia. She knew everything she was doing to undermine her care. Now, I have a question regarding my treatment to regain my own life back. I’ve been seeing the counselor for about 7 mos now. I see her every week for private pay and am her first appt in the morning. I try to get to my appt. about 10 min. early. She is rarely on time and I usually have to wait until 5-10 min past my appt time. At my last appt., I waited 20 min and finally left because it seemed unprofessional to me. Even the usual 5-10 min late was getting annoying.
I then spoke to her later on the phone and she told me that she would usually charge me a no show fee but would let it go this time. I’m learning to be assertive again and to believe my feelings matter, so I told her that I was there and SHE was the no show.
She said that I know she is always late and that is the way it is. If I don’t want to wait as long, I shouldn’t arrive in advance for my appt. She also said that if I start with a new time, she will probably be late for that too.
I’ve benefitted from the counseling, but my husband and daughter say I shouldn’t go back. Any thoughts? Of course, I can’t make a decision.