Visiting my grandmother at the facility today she was glad to see me but she wants to get out of there. I explained you are there for your safety you need to be safe I don't know if its transferring or not. She still wants to be independent and pay bills, I can take care of myself still and forgot that that is all happened. She can't anymore I get the old school mentality and the house connection I have paid most of her bills that have come in thus far and the property tax too. Once I get the guardianship it will be some weight off of me. She hates the food and wants to bring a sandwich that she likes which is cold cuts or a mickey D's burger. I told her I don't think the facility will allow outside stuff like that in except for clothes. I already had the social worker call me one day driving to work that she was writing out checks to pay bills. I had to remove it from there. They will have me throw it away. I'm doing all I can. Some days feel like its challenging. I hate being in this situation I feel like this post is a vent. Its all on me I don't have my mom here that is something she wanted to do a long time back and which ended in frustration. I didn't want to get my cousin in on this she has her own problems with an ex husband and her mom isn't doing well. Plus she was angry at my cousin about the way she handled her sister's (my aunts) passing years back which was to offer a car service to pick her up and me to go to the funeral. I'm going into work and dealing with this all when I'm off making phone calls sometimes talking to a social worker or lawyer, medicare etc..... if they call I wish she would just accept the help and stop worrying about the bills and the house. I will take care of it. Has anyone else been thru this ??!! How did you cope ??!!