My mother in law is on hospice, dying of pulmonary fibrosis. Her caregiver is her live in boyfriend, they own a home together but never married. He does not have a LPOA but has taken it upon himself to make medical decisions for her. He has told me that he refuses to give her morphine to control her shortness of breath because it is going to kill here. He thinks hospice speeds up the dying process. She has been having a lot of rough nights because that is when her breathing gets really bad. He will not give her anything in the comfort care pack hospice brought, he will not give her a breathing treatment with the nebulizer either. He told me the other day that he had told other family members he threw the meds away but that he really has them stored away in another room. I don’t know if any of that is true, last I saw the meds were in her fridge but that was over a week ago. I have suggested doing certain things and buying certain equipment to help make her more comfortable and life easier but he says no to everything. He has said they don’t need hospice. she is bedridden now and when the home health aid came this week it was discovered that she is covered in bed sores. I don’t think he is asking her anything or explaining anything to her. She is awake and mostly alert I really don’t know if hospice explained the comfort care pack to her and when to use it. He did say that he gave her a small drop of morphine and it “made her head explode”. He firmly believes that the morphine is there for no reason other than to kill her. It seems to me she is suffering because he will not treat her symptoms. She is on 16liters oxygen. Does this sound like elder abuse and should I report him? I am sorry if this posts twice, I tried posting this a minute ago and I don’t think it worked.