First time visitor here, heartsick and exhausted. Background: Mom is 84 and lives with my husband, myself, and our college daughter (she's away at college most of the year.) Mom uses a walker after a bad car accident (passenger, my MIL was driving. Sigh.) and other than that gets around pretty well- does laundry, empties the dishwasher, goes up and down stairs to her bedroom, etc. We are a close family, I guess you could say. My dad died of cancer in 2003, my only sibling (brother) died at 18 in a car accident in 1989, and so I'm literally her only living family. We happily drive her to appointments, take her out to dinner, on vacations, concerts, everywhere. We don't leave her home unless she prefers that, and we do things as a family, from an ice cream outing to vacations. My husband and I and our daughter have actually NEVER been away without her, for fear of "leaving her out." Hubby and I never have friends over, because one time we did and mom retreated to the upstairs and sulked about "I"m left out. Nobody wants to talk to ME!" Which isn't the truth, but it's her perception of it. So we don't have friends over anymore. I feel like I've sacrificed most of my married life thus far, and that's ok. It is what it is. Lately, she's struggling to find the right word (usually nouns) more and more frequently, and seems really angry about everything. Very negative, (she wasn't ever a very negative person) and seemingly resentful of us. She gets angry when our dogs bark or are in her way (dogs are big part of our lives; we show and train competitively) and there is often no pleasing her. Daughter is home from college now, and she's said horrible things to her when hubby and I are at work: "I know you all hate me and just make my life difficult." (of course that's not the case; we're very positive and helpful to her) and "I'm so tired of everyone's stuff being in my way all the time!" (it's not; our home is pretty darn neat and uncluttered) and will say really vitriolic things about acquaintances and criticize everything. She ALWAYS has to be "right" about everything, and takes any disagreement or difference of opinion, no matter how politely expressed, as a personal affront. Really unpleasant. She's become a news channel junkie and rages on about politics, working it into every conversation in an angry tone. That's ALL that can be on the television in the evening. It's so tiresome. Lately I"m wondering if she's got some depression going on, and whether I should bring that subject up, but I fear the wrath she will unleash. Or, could this be symptomatic of some early stages of dementia? I get that she's had many losses in her life, and losing some of her independence and mobility is another loss. But I do wonder if some antidepressants would help with the persecution complex/anger issues. How do I bring that subject up? And am I entitled to speak with her doctor? My skin is thick, but it's getting harder to keep a stiff upper lip, and I worry about her. Thanks for any input. It was actually very cathartic to type this all out; I've never opened up to anyone about this and I'm starting to feel pretty down about it.