I live across the country from my aging parents. My father is falling a lot and having trouble with incontinence. He is extremely stubborn so won’t wear adult diapers, so makes a mess that my mother has to continuously clean. He falls all of the time, and has no body strength, and she cannot lift him by herself. I am trying to think of how to help her because she is becoming angry and depressed dealing with him. Would home care be an option, even though she is there and somewhat “able” to help? He really should be in assisted living, I think. I’m just starting to think about this, so any ideas or direction would be appreciated.