Is there any way my mother’s doctor can prescribe antidepressants without her knowing?

Maybe there should be prescriptions for Unpleansant Person Syndrome.

Sorrynotsorry: Perhaps adding a medication for your mother without her knowledge is not a good idea. She could be laser focused on what pills she takes. Limit your time spent with her as you're at your wits end.

All facilities have a psychiatrist. He can see her and prescribe pills and the nurse give them.

My suggestion to you is to minimize contact with your mother. Most assisted living facilities provide residents with transportation to and from medical appointments. If your mom's facility provides transportation, make arrangements for them to take her and save yourself the grief of being her captive for several hours. Again, minimize contact!

It is absolutely possible, and legal….here is one example of how.

Go to one of her primary doctors appointments with her (Doesn’t have to be a psychiatrist)- and after she checks in, go back up to the counter and tell the clerk you need to talk to the nurse privately. Explain your mother’s behavior and concern for her depression and explosive behavior (if she is a narcissist, there usually is explosive behavior). The doctor can assess her and your concerns for her emotional health and prescribe her an antidepressant or and antipsychotic ~Doctors are very aware of elders sometimes difficult personalities and are very interested in helping smooth the relationships between caregivers, family and the subject. One nurse told me, “One patients daughter told me thank you for prescribing my mother a SSRI and giving me the best year of our lives together.”

I do have Guardianship over my mother, so you might have to obtain that first. My mother is very savvy about her meds and refuses to take any anti- whatever medication ~ so I have a doctors note giving me permission to crush (make sure not a time released medication) her Seraquil and put it in a nice decaffeinated vanilla latte that she enjoys (I enjoy watching her drink it even more!) every evening!

She will be moving into assisted living in a few months and the director there has been given the letter of permission and is happy to continue the evening ritual.

A long road to get guardianship- but if you want your final years to be relaxing for all concerned, including your mom… it’s worth it! My mom actually engages in conversations rather then being argumentative, she told a friend a fee days ago, “I am refusing all medications and I haven’t felt this good in years!, Im sleeping well and am happy about my life and appreciate my daughter’s help with things.” ….. Appreciates me? OMG Ive been waiting 61 years to hear these words. I was joking to my aunt the other day about how I should have been allowed to give these to her when I was 12 ~~ It would have saved me from all the screaming, backhanding and being told I was a worthless piece of S my whole life.

Good luck to you and I hope this post will help you and others who read it!

You're not required to talk to her on the phone.
You're not required to visit her.
You're not required to read her emails or her texts.

Just because somebody is family does not mean they have to be in your life. Life is too short for that crap.

It's good that she is in an assisted living facility and you don't have day-to-day responsibility for her care. Seek caregiver therapy for yourself so that you can get tips on how to prevent her "from getting under your skin." Take care of yourself, and remember that it is not necessary to share everything you do with her.

My MIL was on AD's for years. Out of the blue, about 25 years ago she stopped taking them, cold turkey.

Not pleasant for anyone.

She NEEDED them. She decided she 'wasn't that kind of person' and refused any 'psycho drugs'.

She NEEDS them now, but the only thing they can get down her is Xanax, so at least there's that.

And no, a Dr won't prescribe something for someone, no matter their state of mind without counseling them about it.

Hi Sorrynotsorry - if your mother can appear charming to others, then it seems like she just saves up her bad behavior for you and your sister - how nice of her. If that's the way she is, then even an antidepressant may not help. You'd be probably better off keeping the calls short and change your mindset going into the call - she is who she is and it's probably better to just mentally detach yourself from whatever she says - it'll empower you not to get affected by her words.

And feel thankful that you can just hang up the phone.

Well one rolled her eyes at her behind her back once. She can be charming if she wants to, but behind their backs is racist and fatphobic. Her Doctor has had it with her so she wants a new doctor. She only ones down to eat once a day because the food “isn’t appropriate for old people. “.

My mom knew exactly what pills were prescribed and what they were for.

If your mom is aware of what pills she takes, I doubt that you could get away with sneaking in a new pill.

My Mom was pretty much into her Dementia but still knew her pills. One day she told me, "not taking that one anymore". It was her iron pill that caused constipation. I asked her doctor if she could drop it, he said no.

How is Mom with the staff? If they have no problems with Mom, then its you.😂 She just wan't to aggravate you. Don't let her. This is who she is, just ignore. When you have had enough, leave. Be glad she is not living with you.

Yeah that is what I figured.

Not unless you grind it up and sneak it into her food or something! If she's anything like my mother was, she'd have an eagle eye on each one of her pills and spy the new one immediately, insisting on knowing what it was! Then she'd demand a pamphlet with black box warnings and be screaming bloody murder for the next year at least, calling you horrid names and cussing out her doctor like a dawg.

No. I don't think your mother's doctor can prescribe antidepressants for your other w/o her knowing.