Is your stay permanent? What is your mom's financial state? How old is she? How old are you? Can she come stay near you? I'm asking because my philosophy is that financially able parents with strenuous care needs (who don't want to transition to AL or LTC) should really be compensating their caregiver children if at all possible. But if she doesn't have the financial means, then I understand that is not an option. I manage care for 2 elderly aunts out of state. My means are greater than their means, so I don't ask to be compensated for air travel when I visit them (plus, I love visiting them!). And they are 97 and 100 and I'm worried they will out-live their savings (they've been retired since 1975!) But most people aren't that fortunate. If you mom has means and depending on the quality of your relationship and her mental state, I think it is totally fair and logical that she help with some of your expenses.
The other commenter is correct about Medicaid (probably) being your mom's only other option. But you can contact your state's council on aging (in MN we have Seniorlinkage.com and they are very helpful in identifying resources). You can contact your mom's county for services she may qualify for (they will come in to assess her), you can engage neighbors and friends, and you can contact her place of worship (if she has one). You can research whether your county/state allows family members to get paid as PCA (personal care attendants). This may require a certification or your mom being on Medicaid.
Many women are so loving and generous in wanting to care for their aging LOs. But often they don't have a clue what they are signing up for as the care just gets more intense. Transitioning your mom into a reputable facility will not only give her the medical care she needs but she won't be in a "sterile" environment where she is only with 1 person all day long (you). In a care facility she will have many more social options which is good for her brain and you can still visit her as much as you want. My MIL has been in a Medicaid room in a great facility for 2 years now. We tried to care for her in her home but it was just too much with me working full-time and still having kids in school. The NH nowadays are so much better than when your mom was young.
Help is state specific. Don’t get your hopes up for financial help, especially in this day and age. I’ve learned on here that pretty much your only chance is through Medicaid. Good luck.
Rwhipple contact your local Area Agency on Aging. They can assess your situation and let you know what services are available. Also contact the Adult Protective Services. They may know of additional services. Come back and let us know how you are doing.
The other commenter is correct about Medicaid (probably) being your mom's only other option. But you can contact your state's council on aging (in MN we have Seniorlinkage.com and they are very helpful in identifying resources). You can contact your mom's county for services she may qualify for (they will come in to assess her), you can engage neighbors and friends, and you can contact her place of worship (if she has one). You can research whether your county/state allows family members to get paid as PCA (personal care attendants). This may require a certification or your mom being on Medicaid.
Many women are so loving and generous in wanting to care for their aging LOs. But often they don't have a clue what they are signing up for as the care just gets more intense. Transitioning your mom into a reputable facility will not only give her the medical care she needs but she won't be in a "sterile" environment where she is only with 1 person all day long (you). In a care facility she will have many more social options which is good for her brain and you can still visit her as much as you want. My MIL has been in a Medicaid room in a great facility for 2 years now. We tried to care for her in her home but it was just too much with me working full-time and still having kids in school. The NH nowadays are so much better than when your mom was young.
contact your local Area Agency on Aging. They can assess your situation and let you know what services are available.
Also contact the Adult Protective Services. They may know of additional services. Come back and let us know how you are doing.