She will be living with my sister. My sister works full time at a very demanding job and cannot afford to quit. When she gets home, she has more job-related work to do, and then must be able to unwind. My mother is a very demanding, harsh woman, and can do very, very little on her own. She has had constant falls, and has been in and out of physical therapy facilities more than she has been in her ALFS (2 ALFs since August 2018) Logistically, the other problem is that my sister is handicapped herself--she has a severe back injury and cannot physically assist Mom. Even if my sister were not injured, Mom complains constantly and berates people unless she is waited on instantly. Right now Mom is in an ALF and it appears they cannot properly meet her needs, so my sister's plan is to get in home care asap. I am just extremely worried that if we cannot get something around the clock, my sister will not be able to get her work done, or rest and rejuvenate in order to keep on getting up in the morning and going to work. I live 2 hours away and go out to see Mom as often as I can, and I will be working soon, out of financial necessity and in order to pay for medical care for the conditions I personally have. My sister and I are both in our 60s and due to our physical handicaps and need to work we cannot be caregivers. I believe Medicaid and related Medicaid waiver programs pay for round the clock care, and we have had so much trouble finding out how it works, even after using an attorney who gladly took our money and then ended up not helping at all with the dilemma we are in. Apparently, there is a 5-year "look back" period. I guess that means that after every last penny of Mom's money is spent on in home care, she'd have to wait 5 years to get in home care? What would we do then, once the well has run dry? She also has VA Health care, and from the agents I have spoken to, she can't get anything from them yet. I've spoken to agents from Elderly Affairs reps. but no one has been able to give us anything solid--besides referring us to ANOTHER attorney to help us figure out how to get medicaid eligibility--and I guess the first thing they ask for is $10,000!! So we are completely lost, and really afraid of what will happen to Mom if she outlives all of her savings!