Lots of people don't think small town lawyers are much good, but my mom had all of her papers drawn up by a small town lawyer. Her will, POA, Warranty Deed to transfer the property to me, her life estate, etc. I know this lawyer very well but I've held off talking to him because he doesn't advertise Elder Law. On the flip side, he has done lots of estate planning for people around here.
Do I need to seek out a lawyer that specifically advertises 'Elder Law' or would it be fine to just talk to this small town lawyer? What could an Elder Law Attorney do for me that he couldn't do?
My mom is 96 with Alzheimer's/dementia and she refuses to go to a nursing home. We had someone come to see if they could upgrade the bathroom but they said it would be pointless to do because of how the house was built. There is a narrow doorway and passage with a couple sharp turns to get to the bathroom that her walker won't fit through. It's impossible for her to get to her bathroom by herself, so he suggested selling the house and renting her an apartment that's more accessible.
I have to get help whether she likes it or not because I can't get her into her bathtub safely by myself then when the caregivers from the agency try to get her into her tub, she screams and hollers because she is afraid they will drop her. She hates going to her bed, she wants to sleep in her chair, she was doing it for maybe 6 years before I moved in. She fights changing clothes. Last week when the caregiver came to help with her bath, my mom threw her out. She said, "I'm not taking no bath so you can just leave".
My point is, with her dementia, her care is going beyond my abilities, she's been on Medicaid Waiver for home care since December and she will be on regular Medicaid if she goes to the nursing home. I can't see her being able to stay in her home for another 6 months, but I could be wrong. I don't want to move her to an apartment just so she can spend 2 months there then go to a nursing home.
In my situation, do I really need an 'Elder Law' Attorney? What would I ask him to do and what questions should I ask?