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Being a caregiver can be a lonely job.

I think you need to check your expectations, frankly. Beyond that I have no further comment.
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The last time this question came up, the guy who asked it got attacked as a sleaze by virtually every one who answered it – interestingly different this time. If you are caring for DH or DW, I’d say again that anything that looks like ‘a date’ can continue into ‘a relationship’, and that can continue into a better deal than the caring relationship. So be careful about protecting yourself and the person you are caring for, when you start along this track. Don't mislead your date, either.
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It would be nice to meet someone, but maybe not strictly another caregiver... (I mean, conversations might be nothing but comparing notes.) I'd like to meet someone also, but don't trust dating sites. (Is it just me?) Maybe the senior center would be good, but not sure. Hope I get a job soon & that would be a start meeting people. Good luck 2u.
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I lost my original post when I went to check if you were male or female. Original answer kind of depended on that. It started out tongue in cheek but now that I think about it it's true. It seems like the vast majority of online caretakers are female. At least in this site. I agree with whoever said go to regular dating site. You don't want to limit your options. There's probably a lot of good people who aren't caretakers you could hook up with.
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Interesting question. There might be something like that, but think about a regular dating sight instead. The person you meet might get to find in you a very special person who is a caregiver.

I met my husband very soon after having lost my father and sister, was caring for my mom, and helping to raise a grandson. My husband's friends told him that he was making a mistake to be involved with a woman with so much "baggage". The silly guy reported to me what his friends had said and I told him that he should never refer to my family as baggage again. I think that because I showed strength in caring for my mom and helping with my grandson, he eventually saw it as other than burden and instead a path I had been given to follow. He then entered into it somewhat with me. After 6 years of marriage he still hangs back a bit on this part of my life, but that's fine. I've always expected relationships to be difficult, but compared to caring for my mom, relating with my husband has been smooth and delightful.
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Join a support group.  Attend church.  Volunteer.  There are people out there who are wanting to be needed as well, and they do this to feel wanted and needed.  Can't promise it would turn out to be what you are looking for, but you might find someone with a similar issue and that would give you a common topic to discuss.  Be wary about "filling in" the void for someone who is trying to bounce back from a recent loss and not ready for a real relationship right now.  That will not help one bit to be a temporary replacement, and it promises to be more hurt, loss and grief.
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No I don't. I feel some of us thinks about that , however too ashamed to say.
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