My mom stopped eating. Sometimes she forgets to eat, most of the time she has no appetite and can't feel hunger, last night I took away her food that she thought she ate and liked. When I asked if she was hungry, she said "oh no, that dinner was very filling" she hasn't eaten since. She's eaten maybe 3 things in 5 days or more. She's stopped peeing almost entirely. Sleeps most of the night and a good portion of the day. This is not normal as my mom has serious back issues and usually can't lay down and sleep for more than an hour at a time, but now she seems to have no issue sleeping. She fairly lucid but does forget a great many things almost instantly, other things she remembers fine. Her legs have pretty much given out. some times she can walk, most of the time, if she's in bed, she'll sit on the edge of the bed, be unable to rise to standing and just stay sitting on the edge of the bed for hours in the dark. she's still drinking water but not much. She is cold, very cold. Her hands and fingers are frigid. She has got a terrible headache which has lasted days, hypertensive crisis possibly? And nausea and stomach cramps, lactic acidosis or the beginning of? I am almost certain her kidney's are failing but she refuses to go to the hospital. She lucid enough that even if I called 911, she could and would decline service. I watched my dad pass away with these same symptoms. What seemed like sudden death, I now see what his slowly dying. I am completely lost on what to do. All I can seem to do with my family is sit around and watch this take place, whatever this is. I offer food and water even though I know she will not eat it. I am keeping close tabs on the bathroom so if she does go I can see if there's blood in the urine or it's brown. I don't know what else to do. I know she wants to die at home with me, but I also think she needs to go to the hospital but she won't go. She doesn't seem to be in much pain at all. I was told that the kidney failure will allow her to slip comfortably into sleep without pain. I can't just watch this happen, or....should I. I don't know what to do.