My wife is in memory care. Alzheimer's. Late medium to early late. I spend the night with her almost every night. For me this seems like the right thing to do. But what about her and what about those who care for her?
That is sweet. Does it benefit her. Does she sleep better knowing you are there? If it helps her, the staff may actually appreciate it. I would ask the nite nurse.
Thanks for your answer. I'm sure she sleeps better and I'm sure I sleep better. The staff does appreciate what I do. But nobody else seems to be spending the night and I find very little discussion about whether it's good or bad on the discussion boards. I can be incredibly blind when it comes to some stuff and, I wonder, is there some really good reason why other spouses don't spend the night.
Are you there during the day as well as overnight? If you are them I'm wondering why you feel there is any benefit in having her in memory care at all, if it is simply a matter of meals and moderate assistance then that can all be provided at home.
As for her caregivers - I'm surprised that the facility is so tolerant of you since you are basically living there without paying rent, so perhaps they will mention something after the initial adjustment period.
Thanks for your answer. I am not there during the day. I have a house nearby. I don't eat meals there. I go over at about 6:30 pm and stay until morning. I asked about my staying there before moving her in and the powers said that would be fine. I cost them nothing and I take care of her when I'm there, so by letting me stay they save money. But your wondering why I have her there at all is right on. I wonder why, too. In part, she is there because life is easier for me with her there. Also, when I play with the cost, I find that having people help me care for her at home would be just as expensive if not more. And they do a lot more than provide meals and moderate care. But still, I wonder, would be be happier and better cared for at home?
Have you discussed it with the staff? Does she have a sleep disorder? Most of the people that I know who have significant dementia take a sleep aid. Have you discussed it with her doctor?
Do you get much rest staying in the MC every night? I'd consider if it's really something that is bringing you down or benefiting her. I'd think that you might be more rested and able to assist her in the day, if you are fully resting at night.
As for her caregivers - I'm surprised that the facility is so tolerant of you since you are basically living there without paying rent, so perhaps they will mention something after the initial adjustment period.
Do you get much rest staying in the MC every night? I'd consider if it's really something that is bringing you down or benefiting her. I'd think that you might be more rested and able to assist her in the day, if you are fully resting at night.