My mother is defensive about her ability to care for herself.
If I ask whether she has drunk water, eaten, or taken medications, she bristles and shuts down the conversation. I am not eager to get 'up in her business'. It makes both her and me unhappy.
If I leave her alone to continue to take care of herself, she may continue for quite some time, despite the fact that she lets herself get dehydrated, may miss doses of meds, etc. That allows her self-determination.
If I start monitoring her medications and hydration, asking her about bathroom matters, and so on, we are on a slippery slope toward me being her hands-on caretaker -- and that is not a role I want to hurry into.
How do I gauge my responsibility here? How do I balance her right to self-determination against the knowledge that she is very inclined toward self-neglect?