My mom is very gullible, and always looking for easy wealth, and so is a prime target for scam artists. She has been “talking” to somebody for quite a while now, who is feeding off of her gullibility. We have done everything we know how to warn her and tell her she’s being scammed, but she is very hardheaded. She’ll even make us think she’s stopped, until we find out later she hasn’t. They have convinced her that she speaks to or texts Trump, Vance and Musk on a daily basis. That she is a very important person working for the government. They were even going to send her a limo to go to Charlie Kirk’s memorial, but she told them she couldn’t stand that long. She has spent probably thousands of dollars on fake “Trump Bucks” and coins that she believed were worth somewhere in the trillions of dollars. I figured it up one time and showed her that the whole world has less money than she thought she had. Once she thought the FBI put her on some kind of wanted list and they her life was in danger.I’m not sure if she is just being deceived and is just too gullible to understand, OR has she crossed over into delusion? She used to tell us stuff like Biden was (unalive) and that he had a clone in the white house. She said Jill was also a clone.its just been such a crazy ride listening to all of her stories, that I know she was getting off of some weird deceitful website
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It was mentioned in that post that Mom may have Denentia. What you write here sounds like Dementia. You should get Mom an appt with a Neurologist. He will run tests to see if this is Dementia or just a mental problem.
One day, suddenly, he was told that his electronics stopped working--some "therapeutic fibbing" was necessary, for his sake.
We switched to letting him watch documentaries on Youtube--not about news or politics--on an ipad "that did not have email access," another therapeutic fib.
That was the only way to get his delusional behavior to stop.
It’s getting harder and harder for her to keep up with technology though. She constantly complains that something is in her phone moving things around or deleting her photos, etc. She’s had her phone checked for malware, and there is nothing in her phone like that
Try to get her to her doctor for some dementia testing. If it turns out she's found to be competent and just a nutcase jumping down every conspiracy rabbit hole, there's really not much you can do about it. If such is the case you should plainly tell her the wise old Chinese proverb:
'A fool and their money are soon parted'.
Make her understand that if she gives all of her money away to scammers and nonsense she will have nothing to live on. Make sure she knows that you will not be financially supporting her at any time and nor will you be her caregiver either. That she needs to hold onto her money because she will need it. She will probably get very angry with you and maybe even stop speaking to you for a while. You have to tell her this though. Get her to her doctor and make it very clear to her that you will not rescue her, become her caregiver, or live together because she goes broke and can't afford care.
Does she have a medical diagnosis?
What are your legal rights or responsibilities?
If she is considered of sound mind, she can do what she wants.
Someone may need to manage her finances.
Put limits on all her bank accounts.
Can you do this?
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If there is proof of incompetency and someone with POA it is time to protect your mom's assets.
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