My approach has been to keep quiet and keep the same exact attitude no matter what is said or done, because if I say anything as a response to very hurtful words and/or actions, it is taken as the upmost insult, disrespect, mistreatment, etc., and as a result all my help is refused: refusal to eat, refusal to receive massages for severe body aches, refusal to get up and leave the room and much more.
My goal at this point is to take care of my mom, I’ve changed my entire life to be able to do that, so my policy has been to not allow any of her really hurtful behavior to cause a reaction on my part.
Unfortunately my mom’s ways and attitude towards life -and me- has always been the same, now worsened by age.
I know I won’t change her personality, same as I cannot really change most of the circumstances that affect her and cause more bitterness in her. All I’m trying to do is to make things a little less difficult for her and like I said, I’ve my heart and mind devoted to taking care of her.
But sometimes I wonder, would there be any benefit in confronting her other than a temporary relief for having said what I think is fair and explaining clearly why her actions and words are out of place and wrong?