Hi all. Recently found out that a friend has been diagnosed with dementia & it’s at a stage where she has had to be placed in a memory care facility. Up until very recently, she was living alone and working as an independent insurance agent. I noticed a change in her last year, the first one was her memory. I would tell her something and then a day or 2 later, she would ask me about it and I’d just tell her again. It happened frequently. A few times, we had these conversations in the evening after she’d been at a social gathering & she would always mention drinking wine, and then a day Later, she’d asked me about whatever we’d discussed the night before but it was as if we’d never talked about! I thought perhaps she had drunk a little too much and just didn’t remember the conversation we had the night before & just answered her questions again. Then I noticed on Facebook, she was constantly replying to comments and like.....attacking people almost. Maybe attacking is the wrong word but someone would make a totally harmless comment on a local news story for example and she would reply to them in an accusatory way, as if the person were bashing someone or saying inappropriate things. Sometimes it seemed like she was trying to pick fights, when again the person hadn’t even addressed her and said something harmless. Her behavior was pretty irrational but I didn’t think much of It at the time. I can recall 2 incidents where she blamed other people entirely, she had to move her insurance office after her now former landlord allegedly increased the rent and she gave me some story about how it was all intentional and a way to get her out of there. She was made head admin of the local neighborhood watch group and after months of erratic behavior (lashing out at people and picking fights) the guy who started the group & who had stepped down for awhile, gave her the boot and she told me he was crazy, had PTSD and was having health issues & she painted him as the total bad guy. Were all these things signs of the dementia? The diagnosis came at a quite a shock to everyone who knows her, she’s always been a very active person sitting on local boards and communities, also part of a lot of local groups. I’m just wondering if we all some missed obvious signs. And should I contact her? I haven’t spoke to her in months. She kind of went MIA. She is also friends with my SIL who is also her hair dresser & they had a falling out this summer and my SIL ended up dismissing her as a client then in August she started calling my SIL trying to get an appointment and finally someone (we aren’t sure who she is) came in to the salon & explained that our friend has been diagnosed with dementia and is in a facility and my SIL agreed to do her hair again. I think she still has access to Facebook so would it be ok for me to send her a message and ask how she’s doing? I don’t know how advanced her dementia is. I don’t want to do anything to disrupt her.