My 91 year old mom's dementia is getting worse. She has delusions, incontinence, and is increasingly confused. Living in her home has become impossible since it is in an extremely dangerous neighborhood, and is basically falling apart because she is no longer mentally, physically, or financially able to maintain it. As her only child and POA, I've explored having her move:
- In with my family, but all parties agree that it wouldn't work because we have very different habits and she is inflexible
- To Assisted Living but the cost is impossible
- To a Nursing Home but she would have to share a room and we KNOW that it would result in her physically threatening the roommate. (This actually happened when Mom was last hospitalized.)
With that said, there is a wonderful senior housing facility nearby that would provide mom with the privacy that she needs at a price she can afford. However, I am aware that even with my family's help, her needs will make living there unassisted problematic.
Has anyone else successfully kept their LO with dementia in senior housing? If so, what kind of accommodations did you use as far as having nurses aides come in or using adult day care.