Hello fellow caregivers, I have been taking care of my mother for years now 24/7 both at her house and now in an apartment we both share. I'm 67 and my health is now starting to decline somewhat. I recently met a very caring gentleman and would love to begin a life with him ( a life I haven't had for 15 years now). I feel so guilty having these thoughts but I think I deserve some life before I'm too old to actually have one! My mother suffers from mild Dementia and has severe arthritis in her back causing her to wake me up all through the night which my sleep as well as hers. She makes enough money from my father's pension and her disability benefits. I would like to work part time again and start a new relationship with this gentleman. I'm wondering if I got a live in caregiver (one preferably not through an agency as they cost a small fortune and the rent for this apartment is quite high). I have a non caring brother whom I have been tempted to call and tell him my plans to leave and if he cares about my mother then he should come and get her. But does anyone know how much would it cost to find a live in advertising for one in a newspaper want add? If she had free rent and her own bed and bath and I still paid the bills since I am POA, what other costs would she need for herself alone? I would still have to give her money for food and medicines for my mother. Maybe it's better to stay here and hire the help I need to get away from time to time. Any suggestions? Thank you for letting me vent. I do not know what I would do without the advice of this caring website.