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It’s truly hard to distinguish the difference. Example:
I will talk to her and she seem just fine a few min later my sister will talk to her and she tells her this long story of how sick she was all night threw up everywhere and has been cleaning it up. Never mentioned it to me. Then a few hours later we ask her about it and she acts like she doesn’t know what we are talking about ... is that possible? Is it dementia and memory loss?

Has a particular type of dementia been diagnosed? One type has more hallucinations I think. Or being sick could be an old memory that just popped into her head?

There's a sort of word salad, mixed up sentences/memories/ideas that some people get. Sometimes triggered by a word. Like if someone said the word *sick* a story/memory may be prompted. So hard to know but worth mentioning to the Doctor to rule out other causes.
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Ginnybg Dec 3, 2019
Wow Betty. Thank you ... yes that’s the way things seems to go
Do you know anything about this type of Dementia ?
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Mine makes up things about me and tells strangers. Ex. we got two used appliances the other day and before we left mom says, she'll (meaning me) be back she's going to buy a refrigerator. So, I'm like 'what???' Where does that come from? My fridge is fine.
I wonder where they get the ability to free form these stories? It's worrisome for many reasons. But I'm thinking safety issues because there may be non family members without good intentions.
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Ginnybg Dec 3, 2019
Yes, I sure would like to know more about it.
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My LO told lots of things that were not accurate. Some were delusions, other false memories, loss of memory, etc. She had no ill intent though. Try to ensure that your family members are aware of how this works.
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Normal? Hmmm. Is there any normal in all this? My mom has never once remembered she has already had her meal, a bath, a walk, or had anyone do anything for her. However, she always remembers what she makes up, word for word, repeated day after day, month after month, year after year. There are enough stories at this point that she no longer has to make up new ones to fill up her brain.
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Ginnybg Dec 3, 2019
I feel ya. And agree. I think someone mentioned a certain word will trigger a memory then the stories start from that.
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Yup, it’s possible I find it disturbing at times when mom tells stories that are untrue to medical professionals about family and her caregivers. Luckily doctor will try catch my eye when she says strange things. The stories are usually about someone depriving her of something or taking advantage of her.
I try not to correct her, because in her mind these are her truths and she will defend herself with a passion. As you mentioned mom may make an crazy accusation and if you ask about it later she’ll say something different. Unfortunately there’s no reasoning with a broken mind.
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Yes. This is dementia. This is not purposeful "making up" stories. To her, in any given moment, everything is quite the truth, and may change seconds later. It is real to her, despite your knowing it is not real. Argument will net you nothing, for to her it is as real as your own reality is to you.
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Ditto what Ahmijoy posted with my MIL. Would tell us one thing, then same day tell the 2 other brothers 2 different stories. Was driving us nuts until we figured out she has memory issues and dementia.
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Yes, it happens frequently when someone suffers from dementia. My mother claimed that when she had a bowel movement, she “filled the bowl”. That would have been what, about four or five gallons of feces? But, to her, the bowl WAS full.

The most important thing is to not argue or try to convince her she’s talking nonsense. It’s not nonsense to her. Just go along with it. Tell her you’re sorry she wasn’t feeling well and change the subject.
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lealonnie1 Dec 1, 2019
Oh my God, my mother is always exaggerating things to the point of lying; nobody knows the truth anymore! She always talks about 'filling up the bowl' when she goes, but hey, I don't check so maybe it's true! LOL. Trouble is, she's always been a story-teller and loves to embellish everything, but nowadays it's MUCH worse due to the dementia.
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