My husband and I moved into his grandmothers home to help to take care of her so she didn’t have to go to a nursing home, and the first week went great but then suddenly after we started her pt and they instructed us to have her walk more and for her to reach for her own water, or remote, and have her lift her own legs up etc and we started to do that, she started getting really nasty towards us, even the pt guy. She gets an attitude and starts raising her voice at us, then she started giving our dog her snacks she gets before bed and feeds at her the table even though we have asked her and told her not to do so because our dog gets sick and she deliberately did it again right in front us, and one time she had a cookie in bed and when my mother in law saw her trying to give it to our dog again, she told her no, and she threw the cookie across the room and told her she will do what she wants. This is just one example of her behavior and we are shocked! We have only been here now 3 weeks and I honestly don’t understand what’s happening and why she suddenly is getting verbally abusive towards us. The second week she would page us every hour morning and night saying she had to go to the bathroom and more then half that time she didn’t go. It just seems like she is purposely doing all these things once pt told us to have her do more things on her own and stop running in every second of the day just to change a channel or hand her her water stuff like that. We then Installed a cam and seen when we’re not in the same area of the house, she is able to reach for all these things on her own and sit up from her medical bed no problem, she has a bedside table that sits over her side as well. I keep a log daily and all her bathroom times, food, water, snacks, meds, and now moods. We also noticed, since having her do more things on her own, she starts making up things, lies about things, yet everything is on video, and she still continues to lie. This is all new to us, we also have a toddler and a preteen we have to care for while caring for her, but she continues to make things difficult on us, and this past week, she stopped paging us suddenly, so we go in every two hours to check on her, then she yells at us bc she says she shouldn’t have to page us if she needs something, and we have told her, she has to page us if she needs anything or use the bathroom etc bc when we’re not tending to her we have the kids and the pets, the housework, yard work, prepping food, laundry and so on, which most of it falls on me bc my husband works long 12hr shifts. She disagrees that she should have to page us. It seemed once she doesn’t get it her way, the way she wants things or expects things, or if you don’t agree with something, then her mood changed and she now is nasty to us. This is emotionally upsetting. Does anyone else experience this and any suggestions for us to make this situation better? Should I mention this to her doctor? I keep managing it but it does affect me emotionally, like it feels like I’m going through verbal and emotional abuse from her. Is this just a normal process at her age?