I have a brother that has helped in the past but says he's done. There's 5 of us siblings caring for my father. 2 of my brothers got in a argument about dads care. And 1 of them says he's done. (is that elder neglect?) It's along story and now the others say they won't cover his days, so I'm stuck doing them. I have plans on going on vacation and they say they won't cover my days either. My wife and I worked 35 years for retirement, (I retired 2 years ago and she retired 1 year ago) and for the past 2 years I have done rotating days with all of them, 24 hr shifts. Before I retired it was 1 night a week and my only day off during the week. I have been doing my share of dads care, I think we deserve the time. I have printed lots of material from this site to give to them as far as Home Care and Assisted living. And 2 of them refuse to even read it. Would it be elder abuse or elder neglect if I just went on Vacation. I'm not saying I quit, I just need some time away.