Mom is in declining health and I decided to call a family meeting, a few months ago, Siblings only.
It has caused so much conflict with my SIL’s because they were not invited to attend.
* I really just wanted it to be with my brothers only for our first meeting.
I found out after the meeting was over from different sources that they wanted their wives there as well.
I know that the conversation would have been just the wives talking, and the brothers would have not voiced their opinion.
My favorite SIL is the most upset, because I told her because of the way everyone is acting, which is ridiculous, I really don’t want all the SIL’s at the next meeting.
So she said, if your not going to invite the spouses, then don’t ask us to do anything for your Mom.
The plain and simple truth is they don’t do much for Mom anyway.
I have asked them to do things for Mom in the past, and they will if I ask, but they are not happy about it.
I’m not very good at talking about this matter.
It totally upsets me, nor do I want a SIL to take over, I’ve had enough of that in the last 7 yrs since dad past away.
I know; To keep peace they need to be invited to the next meeting. BUT
It makes me anxious thinking about it.
To make matters worst, Mom wants me there with her all the time, and if I’m not there, she talks about me to the other siblings. It’s hurtful.
I just feel like I’m burning out as a caregiver, and all this stress has taken a toll on me. Not sure what to do.
# Not looking forward to when and if, I need to call another meeting with everyone because
It will be, to put Mom in a nursing home because of her falling.
# My husbands family have meetings about their Mom, without spouses being included.
It doesn’t bother me at all.