Husbands and wives who are emotionally enmeshed with their mom or dad. We discuss a lot what some parents do to their adult children with emotional blackmail and it is very bad and not healthy, but it takes two to dance this dance. So, where to we draw the line of responsibility to partially being borne by the adult child who is married and sometimes has children with their continued emotional enmeshment with mom or with dad? Is it something that they can't or just will not look at? Do they just not get it when their spouse points it out as lovingly as possible to them? Can't they see the damage they are doing to their marriages and any children when choosing to continue in such an enmeshed emotional relationship to the point that the marriage dissolves? I am glad that some do see the light, but it is so sad that others do not and it is sad to see the damage in the wake behind them.